Hurt

I've been hurt so many times that I've become defensive with anyone who I talk to. Its a nasty habit that's developed from the bad experiences I've had with being naive and giving people too much control. It hurts that I've come to this, and now I feel terrible because its made me attack people who weren't doing anything to Me. This is something I have to work on, I am just scared of being hurt and its trapped me in this state of fear. I'm tired of these sleepless nights feeling like everyone hates me. I know that isn't true because I have friends who are there. But something inside me tells me I'm worthless and stupid. I want to lose these thoughts, I want to stop feeling like I'm not doing anything with my life, I want to stop giving a shit about other peoples views of me, and I want to feel like for once that I'm a good person and not a bad one. I am way too tired of these emotions and thoughts, I need to help myself now and try to get better.

Just a Quiet Day

Last night I fell asleep on the sofa after talking to a friend from Canada. Woke up around 5am and went to bed. Woke up around noon, worked on editing Episode 28 of BOTC. We are getting closer to the end. Just one more episode and Season 2 will be over. The new episode is of my 24th birthday which occurred this past September. I'm hoping theirs enough footage to make it a two part so we don't have to do more filming. Other than the editing today it was a pretty quiet day. Worked on some designs for my next album and trying to pick a single to promote the album. I also ordered a microphone so I should have it by Thursday. I look forward to doing vocals, I'm so used to singing these tracks by now that I have them memorized. I am hoping this album sells better, its more rough and raw then my first album. I've been told by friends who were lucky enough to hear it that this is definitely some of my best work which is always nice to hear. I just hope others say the same of it.

Misunderstandings And Dark Days

Lately things have been hard on me, I am going through a tough time in my life because I'm trying to figure out what I should be doing. I've searched for a job here for over 11 months with no success. I am just lost as to what I should do now. I love living in Florida, and I love living with Michael. I'm just tired of being home all the time. I'm also tired of being told I'm lazy and living off Michael. Michael wants me here and he doesn't mind that I don't have a job. Not that its a valid reason for me not to work. I want to work, really badly but theirs just nothing around. So because of this I guess I've been perceived as lazy or not mature in some way. I've also been seen this way because of my humor which has been observed as "crude" and "rude". Michael and me share the same humor and he understands it so why is my comments considered that and not his? I'll tell you why, because those people just don't understand me and see me as a easy target to take their issues out on. Its like high-school, the bully is always gonna go after the weaker, less fortunate person because it makes themselves feel better about their own problems. I am trying to not post anymore of personal thoughts of how stupid and fucked up some people are on Facebook as people take shit to personally on their and it seems theirs a lack of people who can take a joke these days. I'd also like to point out that people take how I act on Bears On The Coast seriously, if you have seen our live streams you will notice I am more quiet and reserved then running out and laughing and being silly. Yes, I have those moments and anyone with a sense of humor would understand I'm just having fun but instead it comes off as an attack. I state many times that I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and that is never my intention. So why does it seem people disregard my words and just come to their own personal conclusion? People are very quick to judge these days and that's something I think is wrong. That's how drama occurs because people assume something based on something they heard or saw and instantly that becomes all they are and that's terrible. I like to live in a better place where everyone is accepted no matter their differences. I don't want to put anyone down and when you see me doing that on the show its either a joke or its based on me being disrespected. I make comments about others yes and I know I shouldn't. Sometimes it happens, I am human, I get angry like everyone else. I don't enjoy being held accountable for every action I make and so I really think its best I reserve my personal feelings for here as opposed to Facebook. At least on here its a personal journal and Facebook "isn't suppose to be serious" so I will treat it as such.

Meat Market, Weekend, Honoring Creativity

Been a while since I did a blog entry, a lot has happened. Last weekend I was in Orlando with Michael for Bear Bust and Bear Weekend Orlando. We were with our friends Mike, Anthony, Robert, Richard, Arni, and Jorge. It was an okay event. While I was there though I feel I came to a revelation about myself. I feel we all or some of us come to a point in our lives where we get tired of the random encounters and no strings attached hook ups. I've hit my limit and honestly when your young its told to us that this is normal. I'm still being told I should be doing it but I can't. The thought of sleeping with someone solely based on their looks physically makes me sick. I was being hit on most of that weekend by guys who were drunk and I didn't know them, not even their name. Maybe I've just gotten past that point in my life. This by no means says I'm opposed to FWB, I'd prefer to be friends and hangout. I'd even be open to dating if anyone was interested. Other than feeling like I was at a meat market I had a pretty good time.

This weekend we are going to Orlando and Tampa. Tomorrow were going to Orlando for the evening to visit a friend of mine, our first time meeting, I'm very excited. And then we will head to Tampa to spend time with Andrew. Tom is away for the weekend so it will just be me, Michael, & Andrew. Should be a nice quiet weekend.

Been working on some new tunes, found out how to use some new synthesis in FL Studio. I've been honoring my creativity but staying away from giving these songs names and purpose. I already have five albums on the back burner for release. If I ever do plan to release them it will be after I've released a great deal of my older stuff first.

24 Reflections

Laying in bed, the day before our big trip to Orlando for my 24th Birthday thinking. I guess its time for a reflection of the past year.
So this time last year I was sitting at a table of people who were considering or had already turned there back on me. In this bar in Kalamazoo, Michigan, I was pretending things were okay and hiding behind smiles, its was hard, living with someone you grew close to in two years time and then after almost a week of time together in person it was over and all that was left was a bitter taste that we both suffered with. How can someone who came off so sweet turn out to be so rude and harsh? I wonder if I did something wrong, but I can't worry about such things now. It was a rough period of my life, it was sort of the limbo of Dante's Inferno but it was a limbo of my own making. All because of my inexperience and a bad choice, but i've learned since then and id theirs anything i've learned its that life is a growing process and we are constantly learning from our experiences.
A breaking point was hit in Michigan, and I reached out to anyone that would listen, even if most of the people I was close with weren't there to listen. Somewhere in all of that cold emptiness I felt inside of me, part of me knew I needed to do something. Thats when I met my now current roommate and one of my closest and best friends, Michael Varvel. Meeting him and moving down here is one of the best decisions i've made, if I never made it, i'd be scared to think of where i'd be today.
Since moving down here, Michael has made it more than welcoming for me. I've met lots of people and friends and shared my creativity and personal life with people when me and he started Bears On The Coast. Its been quite a change, but a good one, i'm glad to be having a birthday this year with people who care about me and I care about them. My friends are like my family and keep me strong, I thank them all for sticking with me.

Dustin's 24th Birthday & Drunken Straight Boys

My 24th Birthday is coming up, we are going down to Orlando for the weekend. So far the current plan is to go down on Friday, pick up James from Orlando Airport, and then get unpacked for the evening. Saturday, we wake up early, go to Disney till early afternoon, then come back and relax before dinner at Hamburger Mary's that evening, and possibly going to P House afterwards. Then on Sunday, wake up early and go to either Disney or Universal, then hang at the hotel and go to dinner at Stevi B's and then P House. Monday we will be packing and getting ready to leave, we will have lunch with James and drop him off at the airport around the afternoon and then head back up to Gainesville. Its a very long list of stuff but its all stuff I hope to do. I am looking forward to seeing a lot of my friends. Glad to be getting out of the house and doing someone fun.

So its almost 3am here and Michael was woken up by the sound of a very loud drum set which was being played above our heads. It was like a rock concert was going on and we even had the sound of an audience of drunken guys and girls. We got dressed and went out to the lobby where Michael went upstairs to find not only was the tenant above us awake but the tenant upstairs on the other side was hanging out with them as well. So Michael asks them "Can you please keep it down, its two in the morning and were trying to get some sleep?". Silence, thats all I heard for almost a minute and then "The way you put it sounds like a reasonable request." and then we went back inside. Ten minutes later, the drums are back and Michael is on the phone with the police, the arrive, watch the house for three minutes and then leave... Thats not what we asked but okay. They are at least being quiet now, and i'm gonna try to head to bed.

Binge and Purge

Theirs nothing like being up all night throwing up from food poisoning. My life is so fabulous. So i'm suppose to see James today but that my not happen now due to my sudden problem. Gonna stay home and hope that it passes, in the meantime gonna catch up on sleep since i'm bound to the bathroom for now. Hopefully later tonight i'll feel better and help Michael with packing for our trip to Orlando. I have to charge up the new and old camera. I think we will film a bit for Season 2, still need 2 or 3 more episodes filmed.